The New Bobby and Whitney

Yes, I did the impossible... I handed the reins over to my boy Jay. I asked him to guest blog and he certainly delivered. This needs no introduction whatsoever, so just read on people.

(I love it when you call me Jay…)

Unless you have been under a rock for the last week you have certainly heard about the Rihanna/Chris Brown situation that has transpired. And while 95% of the people who claim to know what happened do not have a clue, we have all taken an educated guess that Chris Brown laid his hands on Rihanna. This is not the first time that Chris Brown has had some problems with his aggression. At a party in Europe last year he had to be restrained after he got into a scuffle with a few club goers. Also, there were rumors that he became violent and aggressive with a model in South Africa when she refused to have sex with him. All that glitters is not gold with Rihanna either, whether it has been her alleged affair with Jay-Z, or her “diva” tendencies. She has had her fair share of run-ins as well.

Immediately when this story broke, we jumped to the most outlandish assumptions, such as, Rihanna flipped out on Chris Brown about some chick texting him, and he in turn got mad at her and just starting beating on her. Or, Chris Brown got the “herp,” from Rihanna and then commenced to beat her ass. I mean really people?!

Here’s why I’m mad:

I am mad because all of our preconditions of this domestic violence come from their celebrity status. We are really only concerned about Chris Brown’s physical/verbal abuse now because it is in the news. It is the hot new gossip. We are at our computers trying to find the next scoop on what really happened inside that car. We are anticipating every comment from Chris or Rihanna on what really happened, or an official statement. We are more concerned with canceled tour dates, Chris Brown’s real location and what Jay-Z will do in retaliation, than anything else. Let’s be real people, we are talking about Rihanna and Chris Brown, we are NOT talking about domestic violence.

What is real is that while we have been caught up in this domestic violence scandal, the real face of domestic violence continues to be out there and stays completely hidden from the public eye. The average victims of domestic violence are not platinum selling recording artists, models, or actors. Nope; they live right at the end of your block. In the last week what could have happened should have been a new dedication to ending domestic violence or at least attempting to help those out there who are suffering, but instead we have been glued to our TV sets and every blog site we can find to get new details about Chris Brown and Rihanna.

So yeah, how about people spend some time being real stewards of change instead of into the latest celebrity gossip. How about we do not perpetuate guilty until proven innocent. (I swear to beans, do not let the report come out that Chris Brown was trying to defend himself from her and was merely shaking the “ish” out Rih-Rih, which Chris Rock said was clearly “fair game.”) How about we go online and find out some ways that we can really help fight domestic violence. How about we stop saying, “Yes we can,” or “Yes we did,” and start saying, “Yes we are.”

Could not have said it better myself Jay.