Going to the Chapel...

AND I AM GOING TO GET MARRIED!!! This single ride has been a great experience, one I would not trade in for the world, but boy am I glad it is over! Remember when you were young and you went to the amusement park? And you loved the thrill of the roller coaster? But as you got older, you settled for the the more stable rides? That is what it feels like making the transition from single sister to wedded woman. You remember that thrilling, carefree feeling and you look back with nostalgia, but you accept and embrace another thrilling, yet calmer lifestyle ahead.

Because of this new change, I have been, dare I say, happy (???)!!! When one is in love, they tend to forget about the ho hum drum of everyday life and they pay less attention to the small and petty details that would normally get them upset. I do not know why this happens, but it just does. You are willing to let of go of things you normally would not have. This is also the reason why I changed my schedule. I will be leaving the nest egg soon to start a nest of my own so I would prefer to cherish the time I have left with my family.

But, with all this happiness and love and blah, blah, blah, being the woman that I am, I can (and will) still find a reason to be upset...

Here's why I'm mad:

Why is there such a stark difference in the reaction of men and women when they hear you have gotten engaged? Although women mourn the loss of a member of their single sisterhood, they are still very happy that she has found something better than this devastating dating lifestyle. They rejoice because this means there is hope and maybe they can be next. They are happy because dang it, their girl is happy.

But uh uh, not men. By way of my fiance, I have heard sooo many, "awwww man! Why'd the hell you do that dawg"?! and "Dang... my condolences", said while shaking their head; and this is my absolute favorite, "Man, you mean to tell me you are going to have sex with the same woman for the rest of your life?!?!".

Why do men make it seem like instead of a wedding ceremony, they will be attending a funeral?

Ugh! Spare me the drama. PLEASE!!!

I look at the man I am going to marry and think YES!! I cannot WAIT to wake up to him every single day, while his friends are asking, "dude, are you sure you can wake up to her everyday?!" like I am some kind of troll!! (If you need proof, check the profile.) This is ridiculous. When I tell my girls, we are damned-near next to tears with happiness! I do not expect that reaction from men, but the wagging of the head as if their fellow man is about to step into the temple of doom is a bit much. Someone even said to my fiance, "I don't know whether to congratulate you or give you my condolences". Really, though?!

Men, help me out. What is the issue with settling down for a more stable lifestyle? Are you afraid you are going to lose yourself? That you will have to trade in the Mercedes Benz for a Mercury Villager? Parties for afternoon teas? Football for Desperate Housewives? Please, tell me. I would like to know. Maybe I am the one who needs to worry. Who is to say that the same impending doom you men foresee will not fall on me?! Clue me in because I really would like to know.